日常生活的12个说话技巧（每日感悟No.29说话的艺术）

日常生活的12个说话技巧（每日感悟No.29说话的艺术）"Disciple rules" says:所以，管住嘴，就是最好的自我保护。《周易》里讲：“吉人之辞寡，躁人之辞多。”沉默寡言的人往往行事稳重、吉人天相；辞费滔滔的人往往暴躁浮夸、树敌招祸。

The book of changes says:

"The words of auspicious people are few and the words of impetuous people are many."

Silent people tend to act steadily and look good; A man of high rhetoric is often grumpy and boastful and makes enemies to attract trouble.

Therefore controlling your mouth is the best self-protection.

《周易》里讲：

“吉人之辞寡，躁人之辞多。”

沉默寡言的人往往行事稳重、吉人天相；辞费滔滔的人往往暴躁浮夸、树敌招祸。

所以，管住嘴，就是最好的自我保护。

"Disciple rules" says:

"It's better to talk more than to talk less; but don't be cunning."

It means that words are not expensive but more expensive than precision. We should seek truth from facts in our speech and do not use clever words and flirtaties.

In silence Zhu Ziqing wrote:

"Your words should be like stars in the night not like firecrackers on New Year's Eve - who cares about firecrackers all night?"

《弟子规》中说：

“说话多，不如少；惟其是，勿佞巧。”

意思是，话不贵多，而贵于精。讲话要实事求是，不要巧言令色，耍嘴皮子功夫。

朱自清在《沉默》一文中写到：

“你的话应该像黑夜的星星，不应该像除夕的爆竹——谁稀罕那彻宵的爆竹呢？”

Mozi had a student named Ziqin who once asked the teacher for advice:

"More words or less words which is better?"

Mozi replied:

"Frogs and flies keep barking day and night making their mouths dry but no one is willing to listen to their voices;

The rooster that announces the dawn sings only at dawn but people all over the world rise up when they hear the rooster.

墨子有个学生名叫子禽，子禽曾经向老师请教：

“多言和少言，哪个更好呢？”

墨子回答道：

“青蛙和苍蝇，昼夜不分地叫个不停，弄得自己口干舌燥，然而却没有人愿意倾听它们的声音；

而报晓的雄鸡，只在黎明时高歌，天下的人却都闻鸡而起。

Perception:

So what's the benefit of talking more?

The important thing is to choose the right time to speak. "

When you have emotions talk later;

When unsure ask for confirmation and say;

When there is something urgent speak steadily and carefully;

When not necessary press don't say.

Don't talk nonsense about what you shouldn't say don't talk nonsense about what you can't say and don't talk nonsense about what you can't say.

The charm of language can be brought into play only when words are meaningful and measured.

感悟:

这样看起来，多说话又有什么益处呢？

重要的是说话要选择恰当的时机。”

有情绪时，过后再说；

没把握时，求证后说；

有急事时，稳住细说；

没必要时，按下不说。

不该说的别瞎说，不能说的别乱说，不会说的别胡说。

言之有物、把握分寸，才能发挥出语言的魅力。